I experienced The Cloud long
before Baby E was born. Sometimes I
would start my day with it looming over my head. Other days it would slowly cover up the sun
that started my day and continue to linger over my head until bedtime. That is the best way I know how to explain it
- like a cloud hanging over my head.
I knew that with Baby E being
born The Cloud had the possibility of coming back and in a way that I had never
experienced before. I thought about this
often while pregnant and it went to the forefront of my mind when a couple
months ago a sweet young mother from north Texas went missing and then was soon
found lifeless. Her family claimed that
she suffered from The Cloud and even though they do not believe that this is
what took her life, her story still resonated with me as a soon-to-be mommy at
the time.
The thing about The Cloud is that
it is often invisible. Many people have
it hanging over their heads through life and no one ever knows. Some clouds are darker and might be more obvious
while others are so light and high functioning that the person dealing with it
may suffer their whole lives with no one knowing unless they choose to
share.
Men and women both can have
clouds – even when it comes to babies.
The Cloud did come when we
brought Baby E home. I have never felt
homesick in my own home before, but that is the best way I can describe how I
felt for at least the first two weeks with having a newborn. I was home, but it felt different in every
way. In fact, I would do housework like laundry
and the dishes (even though they say not to worry about housework and others
offered to help) just to feel a bit of the “old normal”. It was the only part of my life that I felt
hadn’t changed. Baby blues and
rollercoaster hormones definitely came in to play, but lasted longer than I
thought they would. Thoughts like “my
life is over” and “I have nothing to look forward to” came into my head
often. The stress of spending time with
a newborn all day started every morning when I woke up. I knew my baby is a precious gift and I loved
him very much, but I just couldn’t shake The Cloud. I brought this up with my OBGYN at my six
week postpartum checkup. She made some
suggestions that helped me and I am doing much better these days. If you are a new mom, be open and honest with
your OBGYN. Even if you are embarrassed about
how you are feeling or feel like no rational person would feel/think that
way. I guarantee that whatever you are
feeling/thinking many other new moms have gone through the same thing. You are not alone!
If The Cloud is part of your life
(in any capacity), please do not deal with it alone. Let someone know. It might be a friend, family member, doctor,
pastor, counselor, coworker, etc.
Whatever you are going through, someone has gone through it before! Don’t be embarrassed to ask for help and
accept it in whatever form it takes. You
are worth it!
Buzz Ya Later,
Whit